How to Be Less Shy
You may be happy to know that being shy is very common among people of all ages and races. It’s a personality trait that some of us are born with and one that can be developed overtime. There could have been a specific moment or situation in your life that could have led to you being shy or it could be that you’ve always been a bit uncomfortable and awkward around other individuals or certain age/peer groups.
Some great news is that this is something that you can overcome if you’re willing to put forth the effort. There’s no reason why you should go through life feeling shy and uncomfortable because you can take steps towards overcoming it. Overcoming shyness starts with realizing why you need to change in the first place. If it’s because you just want to force yourself to be more social or perhaps it’s because you would really like a promotion at work but your shyness is holding you back! Regardless of the reason it’s good to recognize that you have a problem and that you want to take the necessary steps towards overcoming it!
If you’re worried that you can’t do it alone then enlist the help of someone that you care about and trust. This could be a great friend or a relative or even a coworker. Let them in on the situation and tell them you’d like their help. They can be of assistance by simply introducing you to others during parties or at work functions. They can stand by your side and help you through the situation and sort of “hold your hand” if you will.
One thing that you should take note of is those that are not interested in helping you shouldn’t be a productive part of your everyday life. If someone doesn’t want to take the necessary steps to help you overcome your shyness when you ask then they aren’t a good fit for you. You should distance yourself and make the choice to continue on with getting past being shy with or without them.
If you’re an individual that likes to cut the conversation sort because you’re shy then perhaps one step would be to make the conversation last a bit longer each and every day. This could be slow at first maybe add a few seconds onto the conversation and then work your way up to minutes. If you typically only say hello to someone perhaps you could say hello, how are you doing today? This may seem like a small step but the small steps are the ones that can help you get past your shyness.
If your situation is extreme then you may want to seek the help of a professional such as a therapist.
They are skilled in this type of situation and can help guide you down the right path to getting rid of this shyness and making new friends.